Don't say "sorry" when you mean "thank you"

The other day, Logan sent me a link to an article about a new project by artist Yao Xiao. The article states ::

We often apologise assuming that people will appreciate our politeness and good manners. But in most cases, the other party is much more pleased to hear words of gratitude from you rather than an apology.

In her collection, Yao drew a series of comics that perfectly demonstrate this idea ::

Pretty compelling, isn’t it? Since I first saw this, I’ve noticed dozens of times when my instinct was to apologize instead of thank someone. And the few times I’ve shown gratitude instead, I’ve noticed that people totally open up and offer even more grace and generosity. It’s like the simple act of shifting the focus from my own flaws to the other person’s kindness automatically brings more goodness into the situation.

What do you think? Do you think you sometimes say “sorry” when you mean to say “thank you”? How might this simple change affect your relationships? Are there some times when an apology really is necessary? What do you think of the idea?

Posted by Aanna on Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

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