Extra Virgin :: Disclaimers
I’ll be talking about sex a lot more on the blog, so I wanted to make a couple of disclaimers first ::
- Sex can mean many different things. First of all, sex (short for “sexual intercourse”) is most often meant to describe when a man’s penis enters a woman’s vagina in order for them to experience pleasure, create a baby, or bond with each other. But sex is actually so much bigger than that. For example, you can have sex lots of different ways, not just through intercourse. Or sex can just refer to the fact that you’re a woman, instead of a man, synonymous with the word “gender”. And sex has so much to do with sexuality, a whole part of you that exists within your very nature, just like your heart or your soul.
- I believe that God created sex to be between two people, a man and a woman, who have made a covenant of marriage. Obviously, God did not choose to control sex to the point that it can only be participated in the way he desires. Anyone can have sex. But God had a specific goal in mind when he created sex and we obey God by having sex the way he prescribed and we disobey God when we have sex any other way. There is much joy, fulfillment, and purpose in the experience of godly sex. In the future I’ll write in more detail about all the broad generalizations that I’ve just made. :)
- I will write explicitly (and positively) about sex. My goal is to create a dialogue with other Christian women about the wonders and trials of godly sex. However, I know that women may be reading this blog from many different walks of life, married, single, or engaged, with varied pasts and sexual history. Some people believe that if you’re not married (or soon to be), that your knowledge of sex should be limited so as to diminish the temptation of extramarital sex. My hope is that all women who love God will choose to wait to have sex until they’re married because they want to obey and honor God, not because they don’t know anything about sex. With that said, if you wish to educate yourself about your body, your sexuality, or the particulars of sex, there really is a chance that you’ll be sexually tempted. (Remember that temptation is not a sin, only acting upon that temptation is sin.) Have a good support network in place. You may wish to let a mentor or good friend know so that she can pray for and encourage you in your quest for a godly sexuality.
If you have anymore questions or concerns, please leave a comment or email me at aannagreer(at)gmail(dot)com.
All my love, Aanna